Prayer for those getting through mother’s day

Spirit of gentleness,
wrap all your holy loving
non-binary compassion
around all of those
just hoping to get through a holiday
that washes them in tears –

because their mothers are dead
or their children are dead,

because they wanted children
but did not have them,
or their children don’t want them
right now in their lives,
or their parents don’t love
a gender identity so dearly chosen,

because their childhood family
or their present one
is marked by abuse,

because there is great distance
of miles or minds
of border wall or prison wall
between them
and someone they love,

because of a miscarriage,
a failed search for a biological parent,
a lonely foster care bedroom,
a desperate attempt
to be a perfect stepparent
or no attempt made at all,

or just because this holiday
holds up a magnifying glass
to the heart.

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12 Responses to Prayer for those getting through mother’s day

  1. Amen. Thank you so much for this prayer, Maren.

    • Maren says:

      You are welcome Jessica. I have seen how so many people stay away from church on this and Father’s Day because of the stated or unstated assumption that everyone’s experience is the same.

  2. Rosalie Sugrue says:

    Dear Maren your words so tenderly express the feelings so many have and canno express. Though personally I have have always felt loved by my parents and been abundantly blessed with three loving children and a father who loved them and their mother, I do feel for those unable to feel as blessed as I do. When I lead a Mother’s Day service (or as happened this year, a fellowship group reflecting on Mother’s Day) I stress it was intended not as a day to glorify (and lavish expensive gifts) on current mothers but as a day for all people to remember their own mothers – I had my little group spend a minute in silence reflecting on early memories of their own mother, and after a prayer of thanksgiving share, if they wanted to, a memory that came to them.

    • Maren says:

      What a very wonderful way to handle that issue. As I said to Jessica above so many (later) have told me they always just skip church. I too am fortunate but my own mother had a mother who “never smiled.” (She was blessed with a wonderful demonstrably loving aunt who chose to teach and could not marry)

  3. Arnetta A Jones says:

    I was looking for something to post. This is so perfect. Thank you so much.

  4. Laurie Rowan says:

    Thank you, Maren for this comforting prayer for those who find this holiday a sad or difficult one.

  5. petiehead says:

    This is the poet that I like so much……she always seems on target for so many people


  6. Maren says:

    Wow. Thanks for the endorsement!

  7. elainebolitho says:

    Thank you Maren for your beautiful from the heart prayer as this is a day I struggle with, having had an unsatisfactory (the most neutral word I can use to describe it) relationship with my adoptive mother. After she died I found my birth mother had always been there for me – as a first cousin, and her mother whom I always called by her adoptive relationship ‘Aunty Winnie’ had been my very favourite aunt. This year I am thinking about my foremothers – found through MDA – who were part of the Brereton families of high church men in England – I think this accounts for my love of Gregorian chants and music of that era. And I am told that I am descended from the grand-daughter of King Alfred the Great who was so active in spreading Christianity in England. So with those thoughts, your prayer and the loving phone call I just had with my daughter, we will get through this day in God.

    Blessings to you Maren,


    • Maren says:

      Thank you so much Elaine for sharing so much of your story with me. those are a lot of “foldings-together.” I am impressed that I know someone descended from the granddaughter of King Alfred! May the hours left of this day for you be filled with blessing.

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